Mental Health and Psychological Adaptation

Parents and educators must know the psychology of adaptation within the scope of psychiatry. This knowledge is very useful for them because it helps to understand the lives of their sons and cope with their problems.

Understanding Mental Health Sciences (dr. Musthofa Fahmi. Mental Health, Hl. 18)
Science is known as mental health, "Science of adapting the soul or the target contiguity and personal union, a person of self-acceptance and acceptance of others against him. all of which lead to the feeling of happiness and delight the soul. "

In accordance with a positive sense in the person of this adapted, can be said that personal like that only comes from the example of mature behavior that could handle any problems or struggles, rather than run away to avoid it.

Characteristics of Positive Behavior
Indeed positive behavior and mature differentiated the following characteristics:
  1. Able to master self
  2. Dare to take responsibility and appreciate
  3. Want to cooperate
  4. Able to love and trust each other.
  5. Able to give and receive And in the same time, someone capable of giving more than he received at the.
  6. Can be invited to cooperate in encouraging the development and progress for its people in particular and for the world community generally.
  7. Want to consider other people can build positive relationships with community members and try to create a sense of saying, understanding and mutual assistance among them.
  8. Able to create targets ambitions, trying to make it happen according to his ability and try to find every way to the best of ability.
  9. Able to deal with the struggle, fear, anxiety and guilt.
  10. Enjoying the confidence and ability to attract others to do the same thing, and success love and appreciate them.
  11. Flexible in the face of reality. This is because basically turns one's behavior is quite diverse. Each behavior should be adapted to existing conditions.
Positive behavior with all its characteristics is able to realize the personal and social adaptation for someone, so he has the ability to adapt themselves to the community where he lived. This could make him enjoy a life free from crisis and anxiety, life is full of spirit and positive things. That means someone must be happy, ready and willing to accept himself, as he is also willing to accept others. Nothing shows attitude clashed with the community. He also does not make controversial social behavior. But do the rational behavior that indicates a balance of emotions, feelings and intellect in various fields.

The figure like that in the view of mental health referred to as a mature figure, because she was able to conquer the factors that caused the failure and despair. In fact he is also capable of mastering the factors that are temporary defeat. He was also able to please the hard struggle of the various problems of everyday life. Such figures are rarely suffered defeat and failure, because he is supported by the knowledge and ability in mastering

Indeed. Such figures must be mature people who have personality, because he has adequate mental health, so that he could live his life with quiet and peaceful harmony. both within the family, school, workplace or society at large.

Importance of Education In The Kids And Teens (Part 2)

Between Home and School

In turn, the works of someone that will definitely come to the level of stabilization. What did he do it symbolizes the identity and personality. And one part of the personality is there a moral nature. Examples such as honest and trustworthy nature. Moral properties in a private establishment that leads to society, because in fact the person is a form of community or social beings.

Effect of the first received by a child in her life, is the influence of figures that are around him. In their home environment, is the father and
family. When growing up a little. he started hanging out with kids age or older peers a little from it. Then came his turn, he will mingle and get to know the figure of the teacher. At this age, usually a child can not consider all things and has not been able to determine the targets you want to do something. He is conducting activities in accordance with the wishes of his soul nature. And new figures bring the influence of these and is considered the most prominent figure for himself and also for all children, is the figure of the teacher or instructor. For children, who are before them was a teacher. Teachers who he knew from early morning until noon. Teachers who teach them. The teacher was the one who reminded when they are wrong road. Gurulah who became the priest prays for them when it comes time. No exaggeration to say that a teacher really master them. At age who are still small children is like a dough that is easy to shape into anything.

One thing that reinforces that children were affected by the figure of the teacher, is the utterance "Uqbah ibn Abu Sufyan" to a teacher who was entrusted with the education his son-son, as quoted by "Al-Jahizh" following

"Before you edify son-son, you should first fix its own character. You see their eyes bound with your eyes. Something that good according to them is what you think is good, and bad things they think about what you think is bad.

Constraints Faced by Parents and Educators

Perhaps one very important thing that needs to be reminded to parents and educators is that the road that lies ahead of them is not seamless. There are several major obstacles facing them. The constraints they face and should be able to conquer them, among others, are as follows:

The first obstacle is in the form of distinctive features and characteristics of adolescents who tend to be stubborn and dare to oppose the direction of father and teacher. In the name of freedom, they dare to debate and argue. especially in matters of religion until the threshold doubts. This fact obviously requires a lot of patience, politeness and attitude of the father's chest field and Educators

The second constraint is no less dangerous than the first constraint above, is the persistence of the enemies of Islam and the enemy of the Muslims to withdraw our sons to keep away from religion, the noble values ​​and noble traditions. In his efforts were, they use different instruments that can anesthetize your heart and feelings of our sons. With very clever they offered the concept of freedom and independence of thought and opinion. Of course the same concept as the desired coincidence these teens because it is well-suited to the needs of his soul that tends'm looking for self-identity with their spontaneous welcome. It's like a word poet.

"One will be able to persuade someone If in accordance with the desire in his heart"

Given the religious mind and the teens were still relatively empty, with not necessarily swallow that poison them for granted. It's like the words of a poet,

"The love that came to me before I know love And my heart is still lonely It immediately receive it"

The third obstacle that must be faced by parents and educators is a pretty amazing advancements in the field of the means of information and communication in the form of broadcast media, media publishing and television media. It was difficult if not impossible-called stem the flow effect of this progress into the mind and soul of our sons. One The only defense is fundamentally unreliable. is self defense and a strong will, lately. video devices, VCD, Internet, etc. is a form major threats to our sons and son in the field of religion, culture and education. We do not deceive ourselves justified because rely on the device monitoring responsibility in government. Supervision of any nature in this world would not exist that can prevent and stop the culture war being waged attacks from outside and from within it, one chip alone VCD cassettes for example, was able to influence the thought patterns of behavior, attitude and mentality of a child, was only just an example so that we know that the true control can only be realized from within ourselves. That is, we must have the will and strong determination to face the danger of damaging the delicate entering our homes.

Importance of Education In The Kids And Teens (Part 1)

Man and His Life Phase

The scholars agree that a person's life can be divided into several phases as follows:
  1. From start-birth until the age of two years, called the preparation phase.
  2. From the age of two years until the age of six years, called the beginning phase of children.
  3. From age six to age twelve called the plenary phase children.
  4. From the age of twelve years until the age of fifteen years, called juvenile onset phase.
  5. From the age of fifteen years until the age of eighteen, called the phase of the mid-teens.
  6. From the age of eighteen to twenty-two years, called plenary adolescent phase.
  7. From the age of twenty-two years until the age of thirty years, called the phase of maturity and youth.
  8. From the age of thirty years until the age of sixty years, called the phase of middle age or manhood.
  9. From the age of sixty years and beyond, called the phase of aging.
Obviously, that phase of childhood and adolescent phases described as basic as the formation of one's personality. With the share of aid from the father and the educators who deal with educational interests of children and adolescents, God willing, we will be successful in fostering a healthy youth spirit, mind and body.

When The Right to Education

When a person has entered the phase of a young age, ie after the age of twenty years, but his education in the phase of children and adolescents has not been perfect, it indicates that he has been delayed. And at such times, the treatment or prevention is required, rather than educate.

In this case the noble Shaykh Muhammad Mutawali Sya'rawi said, There is a problem which we would call on young children education. In fact we should say is, prevention of young people. Because clear differences between the educational means to keep the disease and treatment, which means tackling the disease.

If there is illness in young children, know that there is one phase of life that passes without education. And if it is so, then do not you say: Educate him. But let's say. "Treat him."

This is where the difficulty. Why? Because when a young man to the extent of maturity, it requires the emergence of the ego feeling. And this sense of ego that often harm the father, the mother and also the community. Important characteristic sense of ego is like freedom before the fulfillment of the elements in perfect freedom. And that means the damage.

Someone among us deal with children with patience to the limit of a certain age. Then she heard her son begin to dare to oppose his opinion. One day you too can experience it. because it is a possibility that is always open ..

But if the sense of ego can be overcome? If someone trained in phases of education and taught in the teaching phase, of course it can be overcome. But if the second phase of a late pass and a sense of ego obeyed. then the problem started worse. The child will do things that are not good in view of its environment is illustrated in the figure of the assessment of both parents.

Islamic education is intended, if an educator is able to perform its role optimally and professional. An educator will always be dealing with the environment that are needed. One important task of an educator is to move the concept of morality in the behavior of real life.

If an educator is able to perform its role, it means someone who has been trained as a perfect pass through two phases:
Phase of education that is often violated. In this case we do not need to punish yung concerned. but steer.Teaching phase is also often violated. And in this case, we must give to the relevant lesson for the violations that have been done.
If someone finds a good educator figure like this. that means he is in the hands of people who could be trusted. Under the handling of the figure of this educator, an educated child will receive an outpouring of affection. He would not have cheated in the rules of education. One thing that should be known, a protege is like "a mixture" that can be formed according to the desire to educate. And basically, a person's worth is formed with good shape also feasible formed with a bad shape. Because the Prophet said

كل مولود يولد على الفطرة

"Every child born in a state of pure"

To us, he gave the example that someone is the first environment for both parents. So he then said, "Both mother's father was the one who makes it into Christian or a Zoroastrian"

To be continued Part 2
Importance of Education In The Kids And Teens (Part 2)